by: Crystal Kulpcavage, MBA, CPC, ELI-MP, RM
Although I was afraid to admit it to myself or anyone else, I was in a dark and heavy place. The stress had built up over the years, my mind owned me, and no matter what I tried, few aspects of my life were what I wanted them to be. A mentor of mine suggested I read some self-help books to begin to unravel whatever mess I had unintentionally created within myself. Willing to try anything, I obliged and sought the help of a recommended author. As I perused the book titles online, I noticed one after another talking about different types of healing. Healing… Why healing? Yes, I wasn’t completely happy in my life, but I certainly didn’t need healing. There was nothing wrong with me. I was fine. Ah… little did I know…
Throughout my life I had always thought of healing as something that was necessary when something went wrong. Suffering through an illness? Yes, you need healing. Gaping wound? Yes, healing. Diagnosed with a disorder? Healing it is. Many others live with that same mindset. Many believe the misconception that unless you are diagnosed with a health issue, you would not benefit from healing. That cannot be further from the truth. Healing is a state of mind, not a condition of the body. Healing is a process that we are all going through, whether we realize it or not. We are always changing, learning, and growing in order to survive. Although, many of us perform those activities on autopilot with little focus and intention. On the physical level, our cells regenerate and replace themselves regularly in order for us to survive and thrive. Our bodies work to change and adapt to our environment as well. We are physically working to heal day in and day out. Emotionally, we learn and change based on the situations that we experience. When something we perceive as painful happens, we do what we can to prevent it from happening again in the future. When something pleasant happens, we hope and seek to repeat it. Again, we are working to heal. If you are not healing on the biological level, you will cease to exist. If you are not healing sufficiently on the inner level, you will cease to truly live and enjoy your life.
Every situation that we experience in this life is a direct indicator of the amount of healing that we are, or are not, doing. It’s a sign of our growth, our evolution. What you see on the outside is a reflection of what is going on inside of you. Some of those experiences are blissful and we wouldn’t trade them for the world. Others, we learn to run from and hope they don’t find us again. Wayne Dyer said it best, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” If you change the inside, the outside will fall into place. Every thought and feeling we experience, every action we take, is either moving us further on our healing journey towards peace and happiness and health, or it is moving us in the opposite direction. Choosing to become conscious of how we are impacting ourselves, choosing to learn how to get out of our own way so we can grow and thrive, is true healing. Our cell regeneration is not the only thing we do on autopilot. Almost everything that we do, think, and feel in life, is some form of habit. Meaning, how we do anything is how we do everything. And most of the time we don’t realize what we are doing because we don’t do it intentionally.
Did you know that 95% of what you are thinking is subconscious? Even though we don’t know what we are thinking most of the time, our thoughts are directly impacting everything we feel, and subsequently everything we do and experience in this life. Thoughts become feelings, which influence your actions, which control what you do or do not experience in this life. The more conscious you become of how you are contributing to your physical and emotional well-being, the easier it is for you to change it, to heal. Once I took responsibility for the life I had created, every thought, every feeling, every choice and action, I realized I had the power to change it all. In fact, I was the only common denominator in all of those situations. Allowing myself to open up and shift into what I truly wanted to be allowed my life to fall into place.
I wish I could say that my story is rare, but it’s not. Studies show that 80% of us do not like how we are spending our lives. In fact, 75% of us do not even know what we are passionate about or what we really want. How can we expect ourselves to feel well in this world if we are spending all of our time fighting against careers and relationships and other circumstances that drain us? Consider this for a moment… What if everything in your life could be different? What would you keep the same? What would you want to change? What if those changes could happen more easily than you thought possible? Would you try? It doesn’t matter who you are, where you come from, or what you’ve been through. You have everything you need to create whatever life or feeling or fullness that you desire. We all do. You just may need a little direction and a few supportive nudges to guide you through the next phase of your own healing journey.
Your first step is easy. Join us this year at “The Healing Journey Challenge” at the Guts & Glory Wellness Expo 2017 on Saturday October 7, 2017 from 11am-4pm at First Energy Stadium, and take your next step towards a more conscious and fulfilling life. You may even win a few cool prizes for participating!
Crystal Kulpcavage, MBA, CPC, ELI-MP, RM, helps men and women get out of their own way so they can lead long, exciting, meaningful lives doing what they love. Crystal is a certified life and business coach, a motivational speaker, and an energy healer. Check out her website at www.seekingasenseofpurpose.com for upcoming events, including the “Conscious Living: Be Well. Naturally.” seminar taking place in Lancaster, PA, in October.